Steps Towards Making Changes
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Change is difficult, but not impossible. You can do anything you make your mind up to do. It simply or not so simply, requires three things:
Throw a little tenacity into the mix and you can accomplish your fondest dreams,
I am often confronted by a client who claims that they "will do anything" to loose weight, or to stop purging or to stop loosing weight. I always respond with the following comment. "That's great! Then there is no problem." Perplexed, they generally come back with, "What do you mean there is no problem?" And I reply, "If you are willing to "Do anything," then you are willing to stop," (overeating, purging or starving, etc.). Inevitably their comment is, "It's not that easy!" They are right. It isn't that easy, but it is possible, and it will happen when the person is truely willing to "do anything," including giving their fears a back seat to positive and healthy changes.
After the above mentioned steps have been taken, you are ready to make a change. At this point, the only thing stopping you is you. If this statement makes you angry or if you find yourself feeling guilty by it, take a look through the previous steps and figure out which ones you have not fully accepted or worked through yet. When you are through come back and we'll start again. Taking a great deal of personal responsibility is essential and until you have let go of your (previously coveted) victim role, you will still come up against walls in your attempts to change.
As previously mentioned, change is a choice. The greatest therapist in the world cannot change you. Materialistic motivations cannot change you. Only you can change you. There are, however several stumbling blocks that may be in the way that may be preventing you from reaching that point where you are ready to make the necessary commitments to personal change.
- Low sense of self-worth
- Lack of self-confidence
- Lack of commitment
Without these, the desired changes, if achieved at all, will not be permanent. How often have you heard someone say they have lost the same 20 pounds a dozen times? Part of their inability to accomplish a permanent change is due to a lack of these three elements. They may have a strong desire, but desire without complete commitment is only a hope. They may be able to set clear goals, but goals not backed by internal motivation and self confidence is only a wish.