This is the part of commitment that many fail to include in their plan. Without it the change will be only temporary. Begin by writing down what your goals are. Separate them into long range, short range and immediate goals. Then next to each goal, write what hidden fear is associated with it. For example: If the immediate goal is to stop buying laxatives; the associated fear might be, "I'm afraid that without them I'll bloat," or "I've been doing this for so long, I'm afraid of what I will do when I discover that I look and feel better without them; I'll have to admit that I was wrong."
Now that you have a list, make a note describing what positive behavior you choose to replace the old, unhealthy one. For example, you might mention that instead of taking laxatives, you will include a bowl of bran cereal into your new, well balanced diet. Or, if that sounds too awful, you might decide to replace taking laxatives with giving yourself a foot massage every day at the same time you normally would have taken the laxatives. Be creative, be healthy and choose things that boost your self esteem and create positive changes.
The next step is to make the commitment. If you are ready, this will not be difficult. Choose one of the simpler items on your short-range list. Then create a positive visualization where you can see yourself successfully eliminating the poor habit and replacing it with something constructive. Imagine that you are relaxed, content, and as you visualize your success, experience a boundless joy, feel yourself confidence and self esteem swell. Imagine what you will feel like and how you will behave when your self-esteem strong and healthy.
Another exercise to help you maintain your commitment is to awake each morning and immediately find something about yourself that you like. Then create an affirmation for yourself where you tell yourself how happy you are that you have that quality or talent. Refrain from making these affirmations around food or eating patterns.
As you commit to a particular change, write it down, say it out loud ("Today I commit myself to changing…" whatever.) Then when the temptation comes (and it will), recommit. Say it again, even out loud if you need to. Keep your list handy and read it over. Ask yourself, "What are my priorities? What shape do I want to be in next year at this time?"
In the end, what it all boils down to is choice; taking responsibility for your life and the course you take, and committing to yourself. The formula is very simple. Not easy, but simple. It is dealing with the demons that have gotten you where you are that is most difficult. It is committing to deal with the pain that has previously been ignored that is difficult
For those who are severely anorectic, whose body weight is much lower than 85% of what is healthy for their height and build, it is extremely important that you get medical help. People die from anorexia. Denial is a major player in the disorder. Feeling "fat" when your not, comparing yourself to others compulsively, feeling bad about yourself unless you loose another 8 ounces; it is all part of the denial controlling you.
Anorexia is not about looks...It is about feeling bad about yourself. Get Help!